Everything should start with why.
Why is it dark? Why is that a goat? Why should I go to bed? Why has granny grey hair? Why, why, why?
Many toddlers can fill their day with the many why questions they ask. The why-phase is well known by plenty of parents and appears to be an important step in the development of a child. By asking why questions, toddlers enhance their learning process and try to get more understanding of the world.
Starting with why adds value in both personal and business sense. It brings confidence and motivates you to accelerate.
In life, first, focus on why and delay your how and what. The how and what will evolve naturally. If you don’t know why you do it, how can you know what you’re doing?
What is my Why?
Well, 12 months ago – just after my 23th Birthday I made the choice to give up alcohol. The story I’ve told for the last year to many of my friends and family was that this was down to a lifestyle so I could focus on the business (Social Chain) however the true reason, which I haven’t expressed to many people – was that I was self-medicating my anxiety with drink – and it was becoming dangerous to not only myself but others around me.
I would live to Friday in which I’d begin drinking, usually red wine, and this wouldn’t stop until Monday morning – I’d work the week and then repeat the same process over and over again. At first this was done with friends on nights out, like a usual 22-year-old at the time, however, this slowly developed into isolated session at home alone.
This time last year, I was at rock bottom mentally not knowing what to do with myself, I didn’t know what was wrong with me, what the voices in my head were and why I was acting like I was. I was living miserably. I took a few drastic steps to manage myself and my issue.
Give up Alcohol
See a therapist
Took up running
These 3 things – alongside the support of my close friends and family, in my opinion, have saved my life.
I first took up running for myself, to make myself better. My why for what will be over 10,000 miles by the end of the year is to raise awareness for Men Everywhere.
This blog isn’t for me, it’s for every man.